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"Incidental" Contact
Aug. 3rd, 2004 11:00 amYou've been there.
There you are, sitting amongst mixed company, obliviously watching a movie or eating dinner--paying little attention to the people around you other than perhaps the conversation at hand. You're engrossed in your surroundings--the plot of the movie, the content of the discussion--when something happens to pull you completely out of context.
It could be a foot or the side of a leg or just the slightest hint of fingers. You wonder to yourself if it really happened, but it happens again. And then you start to wonder what it means.
Incidental Contact.
Now, I don't know about you, but I generally have a good impression of where I am at all times. If I manage to kick something under the table, to step on some object which causes my foot to go off-kilter, I'll check to see if said object is, in fact, someone's foot or shin, and if so, I'll apologize.
So that's why it rather boggles my mind that a continued IC happens--especially in those inappropriate situations (say, like, with someone else's girlfriend or with your second cousin, once-removed (yes, this did happen to me)).
A few years ago, I remember talking with some women regarding IC. They seemed to tell me that there's really no "Incidental" portion to it. If they brushed your arm or your leg, and didn't bring it up, they intended it. It's generally a signal of attraction.
Truth be told, some people are just touchy-feely. Some people are just flirty. I guess my question here is how many people out there have used the "'unconscious' incidental contact" tactic to try to attract someone?
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ludditerobot, ( a movie meme... )
There you are, sitting amongst mixed company, obliviously watching a movie or eating dinner--paying little attention to the people around you other than perhaps the conversation at hand. You're engrossed in your surroundings--the plot of the movie, the content of the discussion--when something happens to pull you completely out of context.
It could be a foot or the side of a leg or just the slightest hint of fingers. You wonder to yourself if it really happened, but it happens again. And then you start to wonder what it means.
Incidental Contact.
Now, I don't know about you, but I generally have a good impression of where I am at all times. If I manage to kick something under the table, to step on some object which causes my foot to go off-kilter, I'll check to see if said object is, in fact, someone's foot or shin, and if so, I'll apologize.
So that's why it rather boggles my mind that a continued IC happens--especially in those inappropriate situations (say, like, with someone else's girlfriend or with your second cousin, once-removed (yes, this did happen to me)).
A few years ago, I remember talking with some women regarding IC. They seemed to tell me that there's really no "Incidental" portion to it. If they brushed your arm or your leg, and didn't bring it up, they intended it. It's generally a signal of attraction.
Truth be told, some people are just touchy-feely. Some people are just flirty. I guess my question here is how many people out there have used the "'unconscious' incidental contact" tactic to try to attract someone?
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ludditerobot, ( a movie meme... )
